From his early memories of family dysfunction and raging hormones, this memoir allows readers to experience Ignatius J through the lens of the four key relationships that shaped his outlook on life and how he shows up in spaces. He recounts his family history, sexual encounters, substance abuse, understanding his masculinity through romantic love connections, and serving our country. He vulnerably reflects on his battles with depression, losing family and friends, coupled with two attempts to take his own life. It's raw, honest, and relevant to readers who do not identify with the cookie-cutter lifestyle in search of identifying with someone who does not have the answers, just authentic experiences.